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Feel Good Fridays: How To Avoid Losing Your Cool

By October 14, 2011April 15th, 2018General Updates

Effectively handling negative situations can help you avoid losing your cool.

There are many situations in life that can lead people to become temperamental or anxious. Situations like getting into a car accident, having a confrontation with a friend, performing poorly on an exam and being put on the spot in a large meeting by your boss are all times when people may “lose their cool.”

Maintaining a positive attitude in many life situations can be challenging, but try beating the negative by staying positive. After all, a wise person once said that life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it.

Turning a negative situation around by taking these steps to calm yourself down:

  1. Never respond when you are upset or agitated. Approach the matter when you are calm.
  2. Take a break. Go for a run or do something you enjoy to let off some steam and approach your situation with a clear head.
  3. Take a deep breath to calm yourself down.
  4. Speak in gentle tone to reduce the tension of the situation.
  5. Think positively. Emphasize your positive attitude through your actions and in your words.
  6. Don’t dwell on negative thoughts. Nothing good is gained from a negative reaction.
  7. Try to find new opportunities in what you originally thought of as a negative situation.
  8. Try to maintain a positive view of the people involved. Maybe you didn’t like their messages or behavior, but that doesn’t mean that you can hate them personally.
  9. If you make mistakes, be open to admit it.
  10. Speaking to a trusted friend helps to get an outside perspective on your situation. Venting out loud can also help you to sort through your feelings and realize that there are ways to resolve whatever you are going through.
  11. Realize that you can’t please everyone. In fact, nobody can. Sometimes you need to just let it go.


In life, many situations will be thrown at you – so choose one way to handle these situations that works best for you and try to remain positive. You will learn that by effectively handling negative situations, you can overcome your emotional reactions and learn to deal with the situation the best way possible. This can help to improve relationships, reduce stress, and have a better outlook on life.

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